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Since no one else can be bothered to make one and is just okay with clogging up the >redditcostanzayeahrightsmirk cringe thread, here is the long-asked for incel thread that everyone seems to want.

Discuss everything incel! Is it their fault, is it womens fault, is it an unfixable problem because incels are ugly, perhaps dating apps are to blame? How blackpilled are you?

Personally I think the problem is a mix of incels being online too much coupled with the unique phenomenon that incels seem to run into the worst women the world has to offer. I've found very few women to be like what incels describe and I'm always baffled that they somehow only have interactions with the bitchiest, nastiest, females to ever hit the light of day. Then again I wouldn't be surprised if those accounts are largely biased.

Anyways, post your stuff. People seem to have a lot to say on this subject so dump it here.
 
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Incels have anorexic levels of vanity and self-obsession. There is nothing appearance based that stops you from getting girls. Ugly dudes pull hot girls all the time - this is the rule, not the exception. There are so many kinds of guys women will go for, including loser gamer men. The appearance and hobbies aren't a turnoff. It's the fact that you poison your own heart against the world and lose the ability to see beyond your own insecurities and dogma.
 
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At this point the ratio of people who comment about incels online to actual, self-proclaimed incels is at least one thousand to one. The internet is still full of people prattling on about the "incel problem" or giving advice to supposed incels appropos of nothing, but you would have to look long and hard to find an actual incel, even on 4chan or reddit. And that's just on the internet. Has anyone ever spotted an incel whose name isn't Eliot Rodger in real life?
The whole thing seems overblown and kind of fake to me. Talk about mental health or social anxiety or sex problems all you like, but don't do it based on the assumption that any man who admits to suffering from those things is some kind of misogynistic psycho.
Maybe I'm just being naive, but I would appreciate it if anyone who wants to rant about incels in this thread would at least preface their post by explaining when they last interacted with one.
 
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ptw so I can laugh at incels
 
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At this point the ratio of people who comment about incels online to actual, self-proclaimed incels is at least one thousand to one. The internet is still full of people prattling on about the "incel problem" or giving advice to supposed incels appropos of nothing, but you would have to look long and hard to find an actual incel, even on 4chan or reddit. And that's just on the internet. Has anyone ever spotted an incel whose name isn't Eliot Rodger in real life?
The whole thing seems overblown and kind of fake to me. Talk about mental health or social anxiety or sex problems all you like, but don't do it based on the assumption that any man who admits to suffering from those things is some kind of misogynistic psycho.
Maybe I'm just being naive, but I would appreciate it if anyone who wants to rant about incels in this thread would at least preface their post by explaining when they last interacted with one.
Anyone ranting about quitting porn and porn addiction is always an incel 100% of the time
 
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I know one genuine incel IRL and he clearly suffers from high functioning autism even though he has never been diagnosed. I agree that the number of genuine incels has been overblown, often by incels themselves, but I assume based on experience both online and offline most of them are holding out for an 8 or 9 when they are like a 4 because they lack the social awareness to know they are a 4 due to high functioning autism.

A percentage of the community also seems to be made up of men who are not actually incels but have had the bad luck of being in an extremely toxic relationship where the woman was fucking nuts and fucked them over and now they resent women or men who had a mother who was fucking nuts and now they resent women. Those are the ones I pity.
 
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A percentage of the community also seems to be made up of men who are not actually incels but have had the bad luck of being in an extremely toxic relationship where the woman was fucking nuts and fucked them over and now they resent women or men who had a mother who was fucking nuts and now they resent women. Those are the ones I pity.
Yeah, it sucks. I know a guy on IRC who's slowly becoming like this after his first girlfriend turned out to be batshit crazy. Yet he seems a little self-aware about it, I remember him saying "I don't want to hate women, are they really all like this" or something like that.
 
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incels detected
Whatever helps you sleep at night.
Even though porn has been massively normalized over the past decade, most people still understand that compulsive porn use is a shameful thing.
Only in the most loony corners of the internet do you find people who believe that quitting porn either a) gives you literal superpowers, or b) is a sign of inceldom
 
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can we please not make this a porn thread?
Incels would've mentioned it sooner or later anyway.
Just stating some facts before they try to push their personal shortcomings on external factors again.
Whatever helps you sleep at night.
Even though porn has been massively normalized over the past decade, most people still understand that compulsive porn use is a shameful thing.
Only in the most loony corners of the internet do you find people who believe that quitting porn either a) gives you literal superpowers, or b) is a sign of inceldom
Nah, 90-95% of men watch porn regularly. If porn is some debilitating factor, then more men would suffer from it.
It's kinda like alcohol. Most can consume it without any problems, only alcoholics struggle with it. But only porn addicts will project their weakness onto people having fun and claim that this will ruin them somehow while the alcoholic is at least honest bc he knows he is the problem.

Also
>last decade
lmao are you a zoomer?
 
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Incels have anorexic levels of vanity and self-obsession. There is nothing appearance based that stops you from getting girls. Ugly dudes pull hot girls all the time - this is the rule, not the exception. There are so many kinds of guys women will go for, including loser gamer men. The appearance and hobbies aren't a turnoff. It's the fact that you poison your own heart against the world and lose the ability to see beyond your own insecurities and dogma.
This is dead on. Those that self identify as incels show an intense interest in number based appearance ranking and a system called "looksmaxxing" wherein they attempted to make themselves as beautiful as possible despite their genetics being 100% against them ever being attractive to anyone (according to themself). It appears to be a massive projection of their own obsessive insecurity about appearances onto all others, and with that an obsession over what others think of the appearance of oneself and their partner, and how the attractiveness of one's partner reflects on one's own quality as a person. Must suck to be stuck in that mindset.
 
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A lot of women watch porn too, many men are just too afraid to ask them or talk it up.

One date of mine, a few years back, it was the first one, we were meeting at a lounge, wanted to show me something on her phone, chrome browser and it had several pornhub tabs open she forgot to purge. I was like "Oh you wanna try this with me ? Nice"

And I sometimes watch porn with my gfs to like discover things to try out and to get horny.

If you are not a creep you can strike up this conversation with any woman. One time a fwb wanted me to fuck her analy because my dick was too big for her tiny pussy (she was smol too) because she kept watching anal porn during masturbation.

In healthy doses with other people its ok, but just like alcohol, if you do it regularly (yes every 2 days is also regularly) alone its an addiction and you obviously need something else to fill your time.
 
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This is dead on. Those that self identify as incels show an intense interest in number based appearance ranking and a system called "looksmaxxing" wherein they attempted to make themselves as beautiful as possible despite their genetics being 100% against them ever being attractive to anyone (according to themself). It appears to be a massive projection of their own obsessive insecurity about appearances onto all others, and with that an obsession over what others think of the appearance of oneself and their partner, and how the attractiveness of one's partner reflects on one's own quality as a person. Must suck to be stuck in that mindset.
imho this is an un/intentional distraction from the core of their issue, which is lacking social skills / not being pleasant to be around.

This is how you get the cognitive dissonance of both 'looksmaxxing' and also somehow having the worst genes ever. It's easier to wrap oneself in literal brainworms than it is to address the actual issue.
 
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imho this is an un/intentional distraction from the core of their issue, which is lacking social skills / not being pleasant to be around.

This is how you get the cognitive dissonance of both 'looksmaxxing' and also somehow having the worst genes ever. It's easier to wrap oneself in literal brainworms than it is to address the actual issue.
Fucking "looksmaxxing" even thinking up their own words to further steer away from society and burry themselves deeper in their pity holes
 
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