- Jul 26, 2021
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Socializing is paramount for mental health, no two ways about it. I just place real over online.It depends. I mean, there have been times in my life where I minimized just how good the Internet was for me; especially when I was living alone and wasn't really able to make friends IRL. I use to live in rural USA as a national service volunteer and wasn't really able to make the personal connections that I needed. I wish I didn't beat myself up about it at the time. It's okay to connect with people on social media or use Discord to try and make some friends. I did make a few friends off of /soc/ during the really hard times of my life, but I think people should just be careful not to get caught up in a bucket of crabs. I don't have Instagram installed on my phone right now but I still have an account. I imagine when I move again it will be really helpful for making connections. The thing is that you can't just expect people to make a huge effort to contact you. I have a friend who refuses to use social media at all and refuses to have a cell phone (he is a huge privacy nerd) which is fine, but I don't think he should expect people to make a huge effort to contact him by setting up PGP keys and alternative mail addresses and things like XMPP. Most people don't understand, I mean, you can express the importance of mass surveillance and privacy, but at the end of the day a lot of people don't have the mental resources to go through all the hoops. Cut them some slack.
I also don't have the mental energy to setup the necesary tools for private communication, so I get what you mean.
I just feel that online interaction is just, kinda exaggerated and fake in many ways? Its kinda performative, and it often goes outside of the realm of how almost anyone would act in real life. You've got people roleplaying ideologies and identities just for the sake of belonging, and all this is done in an ethereal space generally free of consequence and thus meaning. Not that this is bad per se, it can be really fun, but its just void. I don't think you can lead a fulfilling life if you live online.
OhNot for me, I want to be on the internet until I die.
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