Our Hypersexual World, and What Next?

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The Background

The Internet is well known as a gateway to porn, we have all probably heard that fact about how one third of the Internet is porn or some crazy number like that. We all also know that a defining aspect of Generation Z is that most of us grew up alongside rapid technology growth and rapid attitude change to technology. In this frame I like to think there are three parts of Generation Z: the older zoomer who had their formative years in the world before real widespread social media use; the middle zoomer (which I fall into) who are the young natives of social media and adopted it as their primary communication; and the young zoomer that grew up in the Internet world. Any younger is getting into what I call iPad kids, which is gonna be a whole other ballpark, but basically I think of zoomers as the ones that adopted the Internet as their primary platform for communication, fun, work... so basically everything. Generation Z always had Internet access, and it's obvious to anyone then that kids who wander across the Internet wantonly, as they do, will stumble on porn by accident or by seeing what happens if they type "big naked boobs" into Google.

As time has gone on, parents seem less able to enforce parental control over their child's digital lives --- and how can they? Kids are bound to find backdoors eventually. I'm 18, I recall our collective experiences in primary school of wrangling with our parents for permission to make a social media account. Now It's totally normal to see 9 year olds with public accounts on a place like TikTok, which the parents may or may not know about but that still means that the once watchful eye has relaxed because of how they view the Internet has fundamentally changed in that short time. For everyone, the Internet sort of melded into their lives from the access of their pocket.

I think a lot of us who used the Internet as kids could attest some experience of stumbling on something explicit at a young age, and were affected in different degrees, but when I was at school it seemed there were certain times of exposures. At 11, some of us boys daringly sought out porn online, some ending up as regular users (child addicts). Only one year goes by and we're in high school, and now we're big boys and we have to turn it up ten fucking notches, and now it's literally inescapable. If you weren't exposed before, you were going to be within a few months of starting high school. 12 year olds watch porn at the back of class. 13 year olds looking at hentai pictures in the library. The depraved hum is constant and it has been feeding back into itself for years. When I was 16, everyone seemed to be seriously on pornography, and it seemed like it was starting to not just be a guy thing. On the Internet, you'd easily find girls claiming they like hentai, and I even saw it in person now and then. It'd be hard to find any Western 16 year old now who hasn't seen some hentai at least once, because this is the atmosphere of our world, which encompassed both the real life and the digital life.

The Atmosphere

The feedback loop of depravity and more people getting exposed to it has led to an environment where depraved sex seems to permeate our worldview. And I mean depraved sex, not regular sex, which was always something teens were obsessed with; now it is different. Think of the Gen Z gamer culture, which is massive now that a majority of Gen Z --- especially the younger half --- are gamers, and now also that more girls play video games than ever. Think of Gen Z on TikTok, where girls sexualize themselves beyond the wildest dreams of Instagram. Tons of zoomers inhabit one or both of these spheres, which both has that chronically-online sexuality imbued into it in ways that are disturbingly casual.

It's a disgusting, hazy atmosphere; it dampens your senses and your psyche, and if you stay, it will affect the way you view sex. Sex is a big part of a relationship: if it's good then it keeps both partners in good faith to one another and with great fondness to each other, but if it's bad then it can lead to barren relationships, it can destroy marriages. Sex is rarely an expression of love in this atmosphere, but merely something you do for your own pleasure. I know that's hardly Gen Z, exclusive but it's still an important part of it. Guys want girls to pull faces to simulate cartoons; people want to stick their tongue into a shit hole; guys watch forceful disgusting blowjob videos where the girl is choking on her stringy saliva, and then expects that in real life; and the gross pseudo-incest of fake step-family porn . . . this is the sex that is presented to Gen Z, and they believe in it because that is what they see on their devices that they are stuck on all the time. Of course people don't think of this consciously, but it is nonetheless etched into zoomer culture. These changes will have historic effects.

The Future

There is definitely an online diaspora of young men who want to move beyond porn, and their numbers are increasing. The difficult thing is that this motivation is not always in good faith; good health is unironically a tenet of "Internet Nazism". There are those who are anti-porn because they believe Jews invented it to destroy Western culture. On the flip side, there is the idea that pornography is anti-feminist because of how it objectifies women. This sensible idea gets overshadowed by the other feminists who claim it's somehow empowering or whatever because... they can at least make money from it? (On a side note, have you ever thought about just how many people there are who make pornography? The quantity of porn out there makes it seem like millions of people. Where the hell are they all?) But I get the feeling that this cannot last long term without massive consequences. Perhaps it will, and we will suffer those consequences, but I think it is a question of when it'll stop, rather than if. Perhaps it will remain this way for the doomed Generation Z and the subversive fringes will amount to nothing significant, but the generation that they will beget may be the ones who will despise their parents for their gross sexual acts, for degrading themselves for pleasure or money... they may be the ones who will make leeway on ripping away the new view of sex, though they will naturally come across the problem of what would replace it, and if they were being subversive, they'd probably just hate all sexuality. It would surely be very contentious. But I can easily imagine the generation we create will look down on us zoomers for being perverts, just as we look down on boomers.

Maybe that prediction is stupid but I stand absolutely by this statement: the hypersexual world will not last, but its death won't be from a grand moral triumph. It might be thrown out when the coming catastrophes like recession, depression, starvation, inflation, all come along and we suddenly have bigger things to worry about than boning submissive twink anuses. Hell we could pass it down for another hundred years or something, but frankly that's all I'd give it honestly. It sucks that the hypersexual world is a thing, but it's a unique historic event. It's surreal and sad and disgusting, but you can't say it isn't interesting, in some way.

Ultimately, my solace for the future is basic: the only constant is change, so the world probably won't stay like this, even if I don't get to see it otherwise.
 
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Perhaps it will remain this way for the doomed Generation Z and the subversive fringes will amount to nothing significant, but the generation that they will beget may be the ones who will despise their parents for their gross sexual acts, for degrading themselves for pleasure or money... they may be the ones who will make leeway on ripping away the new view of sex, though they will naturally come across the problem of what would replace it, and if they were being subversive, they'd probably just hate all sexuality.
I actually just thought about this last night. Kids have a strange tendency to desperately want to be like the generation above them yet at the same time want to have nothing to do with them. There's a very good chance that with enough studies and motivational videos and whatnot out there that the generation under us will have enough sense to steer clear of porn. Then again as long as the internet exists there will always be that one guy in high school whos ends up exposing his classmates even if they had previously steered clear. I disagree that they would hate all sexuality because if there's another constant other than change it's the fact that people will be horney. At the most there could be a sort of Puritanical resistance to sexuality but I doubt that will happen. Also if it did happen it would just beget another age of hypersexuality once the children of the puritans revolt against their parents for their very obvious hypocrisy.

Maybe that prediction is stupid but I stand absolutely by this statement: the hypersexual world will not last, but its death won't be from a grand moral triumph. It might be thrown out when the coming catastrophes like recession, depression, starvation, inflation, all come along and we suddenly have bigger things to worry about than boning submissive twink anuses. Hell we could pass it down for another hundred years or something, but frankly that's all I'd give it honestly. It sucks that the hypersexual world is a thing, but it's a unique historic event. It's surreal and sad and disgusting, but you can't say it isn't interesting, in some way.
I agree with you here there are just too many factors at play that prevent our current culture from lasting. Also seeing how history's timelines have been sped up since the digital era kicked in full-force I'm guessing we'll see some form of change within our lifetime although it's impossible to say what exactly will happen. I'll just keep my head down and try to live out the quiet life that I always wanted and sit back with some popcorn. History is changing right in front of us and I'm excited to see what's next.
 
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As a zoomer, I think I can offer some perspective on how this affect us.

One question I had for long time is whatever "rituals" were worth experiencing. Now I won't claim that I once got in bed with someone - but I was friends with some people who did and managed to obtain some knowledge about it.

From what I understand "rituals" iin a vacuum is biologically the same as what people do by themselves - it's just a more inconvenient and risky version of it. The only thing different about it is that there is an added intimate social component to it. In other words, it is socially akward the first first time and a general struggle, it create good memories for the couple.

It is my belief that as a result of being overexposed to medias that play on the desire, people overhype it way too much. Many of the people I talked described "rituals" as underwhelming. It appears that the media create unrealistic expectations (to the suprise of literally no one).

It would also not suprise me if many people see relationship as a mean to do "rituals" rather than love. I have also yet to see a Zoomer couple that last for more than a couple months.
 
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teens will be horny no matter what, and that's not going to change in the future, though the availability of porn obviously does facilitate its spread and consumption - this is not a bad thing
sure, it can be addicting in excess, but porn, especially amateur and homemade porn (the industry itself is a rotten hellhole) can be very beneficial in multiple ways, not just when it comes to sex work.
sexual liberation and sexual expression are not bad things, shunning them and pining for a puritanical past/future age where all forms of ""deviant"" expression are seen with disgust is not a good future to look forward to
 
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It is my belief that as a result of being overexposed to medias that play on the desire, people overhype it way too much. Many of the people I talked described "rituals" as underwhelming. It appears that the media create unrealistic expectations (to the suprise of literally no one).

It would also not suprise me if many people see relationship as a mean to do "rituals" rather than love. I have also yet to see a Zoomer couple that last for more than a couple months.
Yeah, first time isn't gonna be good, but the regular presence of sex in a relationship is. I'm not too concerned with the whole virginity thing, that's not relevant.
Also I can assure you that there are plenty of Gen Z who have long term relationships, they don't tend to make themselves known though and you only see it naturally in the middle/older zoomers. I know one couple who are still together after six years, so basically the entirety of high school. I'd say that's nice, but I detest them because they are deep into gross fetishes like DDLG, polyamory, etc. so in my view they are practicing the same hypersexuality but in marriage. But hey, they're technically together still and married.
Another couple I knew, as far as I know wasn't as extreme as the one I mentioned prior, but I didn't know them too well. They only recently broke up after five years.
The last one is myself, I am in a relationship that recently hit the five year mark, I'm nineteen. It was rocky as hell though, you may garner from my attitude in my post that I was massively degenerate and have become one of those guys who despised that which made himself that way.
teens will be horny no matter what, and that's not going to change in the future, though the availability of porn obviously does facilitate its spread and consumption - this is not a bad thing
sure, it can be addicting in excess, but porn, especially amateur and homemade porn (the industry itself is a rotten hellhole) can be very beneficial in multiple ways, not just when it comes to sex work.
sexual liberation and sexual expression are not bad things, shunning them and pining for a puritanical past/future age where all forms of ""deviant"" expression are seen with disgust is not a good future to look forward to
Welcome to Agora fellow traveller, hope to see you around here more :agsmile:

You talk about how things could be. Maybe it could be fine if everyone could moderate themselves, but that's not how it is, especially when kids/teens are involved. What I wrote is a bit descriptive, but it's my attempt at expressing what the reality I saw was, which was an atmosphere every Western kid finds themselves in, online and/or in school. I don't like to use the C word often, but I could only say that it's ingrained in Gen Z culture. I did try to keep out any "pining for puritanism", I said there are groups that exist which go against this, I made a vague speculation that there may be more groups in the future, because if hypersexuality is the norm, then there'll be plenty of rebels to act contrary to that.
Porn addiction is all too common and too easy in my age range, and most don't realize they have it because its so normal. I imagine it like having a bottomless bag of crack constantly a metre away from you, of course it would be hard to kick it... worse still if you got hooked as a kid, before you've even developed the capacity to make critical judgments. It has real negative effects, especially on how you perceive sex and relationships, that you'll eventually have to overcome.

If you don't mind, I would like to know what the benefits of pornography are.
 
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Addiction is addiction. Its not the source, its the person. Marketing is marketing, they will sell you a product to the end of your hearts desire.

We will eventually see an end to this cycle and a new massive trend will take its place to form society. Just remember one thing: Prostitution is one of the world's oldest industries.
 
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As a zoomer, I think I can offer some perspective on how this affect us.

One question I had for long time is whatever "rituals" were worth experiencing. Now I won't claim that I once got in bed with someone - but I was friends with some people who did and managed to obtain some knowledge about it.

From what I understand "rituals" iin a vacuum is biologically the same as what people do by themselves - it's just a more inconvenient and risky version of it. The only thing different about it is that there is an added intimate social component to it. In other words, it is socially akward the first first time and a general struggle, it create good memories for the couple.

It is my belief that as a result of being overexposed to medias that play on the desire, people overhype it way too much. Many of the people I talked described "rituals" as underwhelming. It appears that the media create unrealistic expectations (to the suprise of literally no one).

It would also not suprise me if many people see relationship as a mean to do "rituals" rather than love. I have also yet to see a Zoomer couple that last for more than a couple months.
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Welcome to Agora fellow traveller, hope to see you around here more :agsmile:

You talk about how things could be. Maybe it could be fine if everyone could moderate themselves, but that's not how it is, especially when kids/teens are involved. What I wrote is a bit descriptive, but it's my attempt at expressing what the reality I saw was, which was an atmosphere every Western kid finds themselves in, online and/or in school. I don't like to use the C word often, but I could only say that it's ingrained in Gen Z culture. I did try to keep out any "pining for puritanism", I said there are groups that exist which go against this, I made a vague speculation that there may be more groups in the future, because if hypersexuality is the norm, then there'll be plenty of rebels to act contrary to that.
Porn addiction is all too common and too easy in my age range, and most don't realize they have it because its so normal. I imagine it like having a bottomless bag of crack constantly a metre away from you, of course it would be hard to kick it... worse still if you got hooked as a kid, before you've even developed the capacity to make critical judgments. It has real negative effects, especially on how you perceive sex and relationships, that you'll eventually have to overcome.

If you don't mind, I would like to know what the benefits of pornography are.
thank you for the welcome ^^

it's true that kids can get very into it, i certainly remember kids looking at porn and risqué stuff at school, at least in middle school when a lot of us were discovering porn and sex for the first time. i think a lot of kids just grow out of that stuff by the time they reach high school, but regardless, i think preventing problematic relationships with porn is done a lot better by having proper education around sex (the current state of sex ed is god awful everywhere) and expressly by having it be available and not treated as a dangerous taboo

porn, as the accessible service that it is today, can be very helpful and liberating when it comes to personal discovery and liberation for the viewer - making stuff like gay porn, trans porn, kink stuff, etc more accessible and normal is a good thing and can help people with self-discovery when it comes to their sexuality, *especially* for teens going through puberty and being confused about who and what they might or might not be attracted to, how they might feel, and so on. being able to explore your sexuality by just looking up gay porn and seeing if you're into it or not is a genuine boon that would not be available if all this non-vanilla sexual stuff was shunned and hidden, especially because it's usually considered "degenerate" and "filthy" by reactionaries
now, i will say that the porn industry is extremely exploitative (especially with less mainstream stuff like gay and trans porn), which is why i think amateur stuff is a lot better because it's just people sharing their own material and, through porn, expressing themselves in a way

i think the benefits of porn can absolutely outweigh the negatives, and though yeah it can result in coomers and w/e, you don't stop people from getting addicted by punishing them for indulging in porn or try to hide porn and make it less accessible, you do it by providing better education and making sexual expression, vanilla or otherwise, be something more normal instead of a taboo
 
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thank you for the welcome ^^

it's true that kids can get very into it, i certainly remember kids looking at porn and risqué stuff at school, at least in middle school when a lot of us were discovering porn and sex for the first time. i think a lot of kids just grow out of that stuff by the time they reach high school, but regardless, i think preventing problematic relationships with porn is done a lot better by having proper education around sex (the current state of sex ed is god awful everywhere) and expressly by having it be available and not treated as a dangerous taboo

porn, as the accessible service that it is today, can be very helpful and liberating when it comes to personal discovery and liberation for the viewer - making stuff like gay porn, trans porn, kink stuff, etc more accessible and normal is a good thing and can help people with self-discovery when it comes to their sexuality, *especially* for teens going through puberty and being confused about who and what they might or might not be attracted to, how they might feel, and so on. being able to explore your sexuality by just looking up gay porn and seeing if you're into it or not is a genuine boon that would not be available if all this non-vanilla sexual stuff was shunned and hidden, especially because it's usually considered "degenerate" and "filthy" by reactionaries
now, i will say that the porn industry is extremely exploitative (especially with less mainstream stuff like gay and trans porn), which is why i think amateur stuff is a lot better because it's just people sharing their own material and, through porn, expressing themselves in a way

i think the benefits of porn can absolutely outweigh the negatives, and though yeah it can result in coomers and w/e, you don't stop people from getting addicted by punishing them for indulging in porn or try to hide porn and make it less accessible, you do it by providing better education and making sexual expression, vanilla or otherwise, be something more normal instead of a taboo
Yes. I agree:


That liberation has had so many benefits.

In all seriousness the idea that porn is a good director for teens only really works if you assume it works in a vaccum and there are no other people involved. Porn has directly led to a decline in real world sexual activity. Because the teens who watch the porn get more attached to the porn than to a real human being. No amount of porn is ok no matter how it's produced. Even if it's all homemade you're still unleashing a market mechanism on human sexuality which can directly cause a person to embrace ever darker themes. Many modern day pedophiles have been created by porn because eventually the stimulation doesn't do it and you require something truly depraved to get the dopamine you require. Porn is one of the worst ills of the modern day.
 
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Yes. I agree:


That liberation has had so many benefits.

In all seriousness the idea that porn is a good director for teens only really works if you assume it works in a vaccum and there are no other people involved. Porn has directly led to a decline in real world sexual activity. Because the teens who watch the porn get more attached to the porn than to a real human being. No amount of porn is ok no matter how it's produced. Even if it's all homemade you're still unleashing a market mechanism on human sexuality which can directly cause a person to embrace ever darker themes. Many modern day pedophiles have been created by porn because eventually the stimulation doesn't do it and you require something truly depraved to get the dopamine you require. Porn is one of the worst ills of the modern day.
so you think having less access to resources about sex and sexuality, and less information, and making the topic of sex more taboo is going to make people have safer sex?
 
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so you think having less access to resources about sex and sexuality, and less information, and making the topic of sex more taboo is going to make people have safer sex?
No. I believe it curbs their appetite. Can't see it, don't want it. Simple.
 

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No. I believe it curbs their appetite. Can't see it, don't want it. Simple.
Yeah, just like Prohibition curbed people's desires for alcohol.
 
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Yeah, just like Prohibition curbed people's desires for alcohol.
Alcohol is a well established product in western cultures. Porn on the other hand, is not. Not only that but alcohol has some kind of value beyond novelty. People's attachment to porn is based on taboo whereas with alcohol it is for both taste and drug effect. Two very different products that really cannot be compared in terms of damage done. Of course alcohol does cause damage socially, porn is an active killer of societies and I believe is playing a role in the decline of the global birth rate.
 

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Alcohol is a well established product in western cultures. Porn on the other hand, is not. Not only that but alcohol has some kind of value beyond novelty. People's attachment to porn is based on taboo whereas with alcohol it is for both taste and drug effect. Two very different products that really cannot be compared in terms of damage done. Of course alcohol does cause damage socially, porn is an active killer of societies and I believe is playing a role in the decline of the global birth rate.
I guess you need to clarify some definitions, then.

Porn: What falls under that umbrella?
Well established: What constitutes such?

'Value beyond novelty' is extremely subjective and also unimportant. Many things have value beyond novelty that, in excess, are extremely damaging to society. See the effects of excessive alcohol consumption as an example. @raccoon//aphrodisiac has already shown that porn has a value beyond novelty, thusly negating this point.

"Porn is an active killer of societies". Please provide evidence.

"Alcohol does cause damage socially". True, it also causes damage in every other category. Alcohol does, in fact, literally kill. Abuse of alcohol also leads to domestic abuse, child abuse, manslaughter, murder, stealing, and impoverishment. Seems like, if we take the caveat that porn is a killer of societiea, alcohol could also been seen as a killer of societies.
 
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Alcohol is a well established product in western cultures. Porn on the other hand, is not.
Even if the solution you propose would work. I think it's already too late for a complete ban. Like it or not, it is definitively etablished in western culture. Talking about it might be taboo but the vast majority of people undoubtedly consume some of it.
 

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Porn and Alcohol are both similar in my book. Used responsibly they can add some spice to life. They are both definitely vices though, there's nothing valuable that can be learned from porn that could not be learned from loving relationships. I create porn for profit, and even I believe that constant access to all manner of degeneracy is very dangerous for developing minds. I grew up before porn streaming sites, but I was exposed to a few things at a young age through the young internet that I think I could have done without. I can see the trend in my lifetime. In the 90s it was mostly image galleries of nudes, or at worst the sexual act itself or blowjobs. Every once in a while you might see bondage or peeing or something. Then once P2P stuff came out, teenagers could download stuff like Max Hardcore, horsegag.avi, etc. for free which I absolutely think could damage an impressionable persons mind. Now the streaming sites are algorithmic and you almost cant find missionary sex. Essentially all porn contains anal and deepthroat gagging now unless you go out of your way to find something else. I consider myself lucky that the majority of my earliest porn exposure was merely adults having sex and tame hentai image galleries.
 
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Many modern day pedophiles have been created by porn because eventually the stimulation doesn't do it and you require something truly depraved to get the dopamine you require.
This is the most extreme case of something that basically happens to all porn addicts. And the amount of porn addicts is ridiculous... most would not want to admit it, and most don't even think you can be addicted to porn. I'm gonna throw out a number and say like 25% to 50% of Gen Z guys are addicts, probably depending on what you'd call addiction.
Frankly I don't know for sure why people seek out more degenerate stuff and I'm rocky on the desensitization idea. Either way, it undeniably happens.
thank you for the welcome ^^

it's true that kids can get very into it, i certainly remember kids looking at porn and risqué stuff at school, at least in middle school when a lot of us were discovering porn and sex for the first time. i think a lot of kids just grow out of that stuff by the time they reach high school, but regardless, i think preventing problematic relationships with porn is done a lot better by having proper education around sex (the current state of sex ed is god awful everywhere) and expressly by having it be available and not treated as a dangerous taboo

porn, as the accessible service that it is today, can be very helpful and liberating when it comes to personal discovery and liberation for the viewer - making stuff like gay porn, trans porn, kink stuff, etc more accessible and normal is a good thing and can help people with self-discovery when it comes to their sexuality, *especially* for teens going through puberty and being confused about who and what they might or might not be attracted to, how they might feel, and so on. being able to explore your sexuality by just looking up gay porn and seeing if you're into it or not is a genuine boon that would not be available if all this non-vanilla sexual stuff was shunned and hidden, especially because it's usually considered "degenerate" and "filthy" by reactionaries
now, i will say that the porn industry is extremely exploitative (especially with less mainstream stuff like gay and trans porn), which is why i think amateur stuff is a lot better because it's just people sharing their own material and, through porn, expressing themselves in a way

i think the benefits of porn can absolutely outweigh the negatives, and though yeah it can result in coomers and w/e, you don't stop people from getting addicted by punishing them for indulging in porn or try to hide porn and make it less accessible, you do it by providing better education and making sexual expression, vanilla or otherwise, be something more normal instead of a taboo
A lot of what you're talking about sounds rooted in the modern mindset --- which the hypersexual generation naturally adopted --- that sex is a means to pleasure more than it is an mutual emotional experience. It should be clear that there is no love in BDSM, no love in role play, no love in being dominant or submissive, or any of those other kinks. It is only about what is gonna make you cum harder.

If porn did not exist whatsoever, at least 80% of people who have these kinks now, wouldn't have them because of the effect Linkat pointed out. These people were naturally 'vanilla', but warmed up to alternate ideas of sex that they'd otherwise find repulsive, over time. I'd care much less if it were adults doing this, but what I'm more concerned about is that this is happening massively to children. Is that part of their sexuality thereafter? I guess so. Should it have been? Absolutely not. Why is it a bad thing? Because it reshapes their idea of sex into these weird deformed things that are forever devoid of love, but they'll never want to get off any other way. It's masturbating using someone elses flesh, but just as desolate.

Sex doesn't need anything else to be interesting. Within a loving relationship in the most vanilla form possible, you cannot tire of it. If you do, I think it's a sign there is something else wrong, not a sign that you have to "spice up your sex life" (what the fuck is a sex life?)
so you think having less access to resources about sex and sexuality, and less information, and making the topic of sex more taboo is going to make people have safer sex?
Are you saying that porn is a good resource to learn about sex? :AYAYAWeird:
I feel I should say here that I agree that sex education is important. I don't know what it's like in other countries, but in Australia there are tons of parents who are massive fucking failures, we have these lower class bums who want to mooch money off the government by having a tons of kids and then obviously they don't care for them much. I dislike public education, but it's basically the only place where kids like those can learn things that they were meant to learn from their parents, and that includes sexual information. The scope of sexual education should primarily be safe sex, consent, menstruation, clarifying myths (especially the hymen one), that sorta thing. We basically have that system in Australia already, so I'm pretty happy with our sexual education, but am concerned after seeing official Department of Education resources on explicit sexual education aimed at third graders.
Alcohol is a well established product in western cultures. Porn on the other hand, is not. Not only that but alcohol has some kind of value beyond novelty. People's attachment to porn is based on taboo whereas with alcohol it is for both taste and drug effect.
I disagree, sex in the West is an established product and has been for many decades, but in todays world and especially for Generation Z, there are probably as many porn consumers as drinkers, but there's also the fact that tons of them are making porn, and investing lots of time into it as consumers. It creeps into your lifestyle way more.
You can be attached to porn because it is a surrogate girlfriend experience, especially in the time of Onlyfans business models.
alcohol could also been seen as a killer of societies.
Couldn't agree more! :BeerTime:
 
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