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You sure ask for a lot for somebody who hasn't provided any evidence, stats, or documentation. But here:
https://www.nature.com/articles/news.2009.473 (And here is a layman's variation of that document: https://www.nature.com/articles/nature07995)



You're continuing to make an argument from a modern perspective. Read the documentation. Do your own research.



The Sumerians: https://www.ishtartemple.org/myth.htm

The Egyptians: Richard H. Wilkinson, Complete Gods and Goddesses (https://archive.org/details/completegodsgodd00wilk_0/page/206/mode/2up)

To touch on your addition, the Greeks actually viewed masturbation as a normal and regular activity: https://books.google.com/books?id=EflODgAAQBAJ&q=satyrs+masturbation&pg=PA359#v=snippet&q=satyrs masturbation&f=false
All I keep seeing is this same argument. "It was depicted therefore it was approved of". Not exactly how it works when there are plenty of counter-arguments to be made concerning symbolism and other factors. And here's some info on the Greeks: https://www.theguardian.com/world/1...eece, homosexuals were,as fit only for slaves.

They were not like us on this front. That is until the ancient world started dying. In fact those plays depicting masturbation were comedies that were designed to be offensive. Like an ancient version of south park. Also your stone age reference outright backs me up. The author mocks the historians coming up with these pronographic explanations for these figurines. One can't help but ask the question of if you read your own sources?

And regarding the Sumerians I looked into the author and it turns out she happens to be an LGBT+ activist. I can't imagine that she may have had alterior motives.

Your sources are seemingly not backing up your claims at all.

This is dripping with pure subjectivism.



Oh, in that case, there's little evidence that pornography will destroy such. Can you provide the sources you are using to make this determination?



That is a personal mental health issue, combined with a subjective world view. There are plenty of healthy adult males who watch porn and neither want to rape women nor dehumanize them (outside of consensual kink activity).
"Subjective" As if this disproves my point. And alright here's some evidence: https://features.inside.com/why-arent-men-in-their-20s-having-sex/

Drastically increased levels of cellibacy in the last ten years alone. Now call me a conspiracy theorist but what exactly can I think of that rose dramatically in the last ten years or so. Lemme think.... Oh yeah video sharing sites. Porn specifically. There are also dating apps which have no doubt worsened the situation. But celibacy rising at the same time as porn access is rising. I can't imagine there's a link between the two. And I'm not gonna get started on "consensual kink activity" as I feel it goes outside of the scope of this topic but I will bring up this fun little article: https://www.independent.co.uk/life-...tting-sex-abuse-violence-survey-a9222841.html
 

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Drastically increased levels of cellibacy in the last ten years alone. Now call me a conspiracy theorist but what exactly can I think of that rose dramatically in the last ten years or so. Lemme think.... Oh yeah video sharing sites. Porn specifically. There are also dating apps which have no doubt worsened the situation. But celibacy rising at the same time as porn access is rising. I can't imagine there's a link between the two. And I'm not gonna get started on "consensual kink activity" as I feel it goes outside of the scope of this topic but I will bring up this fun little article: https://www.independent.co.uk/life-...tting-sex-abuse-violence-survey-a9222841.html
Japan is perfect case study of this. Japanese birth rates being as low as they are with pornography being as prevalent as it is over there must be indicative of something. In developed countries people arnt even having casual sex as often anymore, they're just sitting at home masturbating instead. Pornography kills your drive to get a partner because it involves 0 risk and some reward anytime you want as opposed to all the effort you have to put into a gf or wife to get a less frequent reward if you even get that far. Porn is a top 3 factor at least when it comes to declining birth rates which in turn will eventually lead to societal collapse for economic reasons. Its a more serious issue than people are giving it credit for.
 
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If you cant even admit that busting a nut makes you lethargic idk what to tell you. Its not like it makes you absolutely useless but it certainly makes you have less energy and willpower to do useful things.
Speak for yourself. I bust a nut every day, sometimes 2 and still wrestle men twice my weight 4 times a week and do a post training workout at home while working a 42hr week, running 1 and playing in 2 DnD campaigns, buying groceries, doing chores and dating a girl.
I need that to fucking relax from doing all the useful stuff I do.
Edit: oh and I cook most of my own meals. I think the paralyzing power of masturbation is either severely overestimated or I am immune to it.
 
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All I keep seeing is this same argument. "It was depicted therefore it was approved of". Not exactly how it works when there are plenty of counter-arguments to be made concerning symbolism and other factors. And here's some info on the Greeks: https://www.theguardian.com/world/1999/aug/16/helenasmith#:~:text=In ancient Greece, homosexuals were,as fit only for slaves.

Well, to copy your own discussion style: Ah, yes, the Guardian. Very reliable. I'm sure the information is unbiased. No agenda I'm sure.

To actually make a point, though, here is an excerpt from the article, "The inflammatory subject of sex, and how the ancients enjoyed it, has spurred on several Greek historians who are bent on dismissing the commonly held notion that their ancestors were liberal, free-for-all revellers.". and "But in a country where "obscene" statues and vases were stashed away in museum storerooms until the early 70s, the revival has as much to do with revising perceptions of the past as anything else. Greeks who are dissatisfied with the traditional academic theories about the ancient world have taken to re-examining them with a gusto." The author openly states that there is a bias for finding contrarian evidence to what has been traditionally studied. They also say many are attempting to do such. Who? Which historians have come out to say such? Its been 23 years and I can't find any evidence presented that supports his claims. I'd be glad to read through it if its there.

And on that note:

What are this books sources? Who is Nikolaos A. Vrissimtzis? What information has he used for this book and where did he get it from? I can't find an excerpt, review, or mention of the credibility of his writing or what he even has to say about Greek culture and the book is from 1997 it looks like? Has it been used as a source for anything? Its also the only thing I can find claiming that masturbation was so looked down upon in Greece. Its hard to say that this one man's book was a definitive source when we have so many historians and archeologists who say the findings point to another answer.

They were not like us on this front. That is until the ancient world started dying. In fact those plays depicting masturbation were comedies that were designed to be offensive. Like an ancient version of south park.

You misunderstand what an ancient comedy is. 'Comedy' was not used then as it is now, typically referring to a play meant to have a positive, uplifting, or joyous ending, compared to the 'Drama' which was typically meant to have a profound or disheartening ending. Greeks actually did have parodies, like SouthPark, though. This were typically far and few between because to understand the plays subject material, one had to have an understanding of the literature and texts being parodied, which less than wealthy people typically did not.

Also your stone age reference outright backs me up. The author mocks the historians coming up with these pronographic explanations for these figurines. One can't help but ask the question of if you read your own sources?

Firstly, show me where in the book the author mocks historians who explain these statues as pornographic.

Secondly, very ironic as you don't seem to read your own. See my first comment in this post.

And regarding the Sumerians I looked into the author and it turns out she happens to be an LGBT+ activist. I can't imagine that she may have had alterior motives.

Ad hominem. Means nothing.

"Subjective" As if this disproves my point. And alright here's some evidence: https://features.inside.com/why-arent-men-in-their-20s-having-sex/

Drastically increased levels of cellibacy in the last ten years alone. Now call me a conspiracy theorist but what exactly can I think of that rose dramatically in the last ten years or so. Lemme think.... Oh yeah video sharing sites. Porn specifically. There are also dating apps which have no doubt worsened the situation. But celibacy rising at the same time as porn access is rising. I can't imagine there's a link between the two.

Yes, I would say that your subjective take, with no evidence to support your conclusion, makes the point rather moot.

As for this article about current men's (and also women's) sex drive declining proposes 4 theories, only one of which references porn, based purely on speculative correlation. There is no evidence provided in the article or sources cited that show any definitive causation between any of the 4 purported theories and the decrease in men's (and women's) libido. If anything, this articles simply exists to state an event (Young Men's and Women's Sex Rates have Fallen in the last 30 Years) and then speculate reasons that may or may not cause such to occure.

And I'm not gonna get started on "consensual kink activity" as I feel it goes outside of the scope of this topic but I will bring up this fun little article: https://www.independent.co.uk/life-...tting-sex-abuse-violence-survey-a9222841.html

And interesting, but wholly unhelpful article. If you read the article, they state, "More than a third (38 per cent) had experienced these acts and said they were unwanted at least some of the time.".
So what is "at least some of the time" mean? What percentage of the 38% is unwanted? In my opinion, "At least sometimes" sounds pretty underwhelming. This article displays nothing that shows a causation between the rise in pornography and these events. I would, without having studies to display on this, go out on a limb and say that in impoverished countries, like Burundi, there are far greater rates of sexual violence and far lower rates of porn consumption.
 
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Japan is perfect case study of this. Japanese birth rates being as low as they are with pornography being as prevalent as it is over there must be indicative of something. In developed countries people arnt even having casual sex as often anymore, they're just sitting at home masturbating instead. Pornography kills your drive to get a partner because it involves 0 risk and some reward anytime you want as opposed to all the effort you have to put into a gf or wife to get a less frequent reward if you even get that far. Porn is a top 3 factor at least when it comes to declining birth rates which in turn will eventually lead to societal collapse for economic reasons. Its a more serious issue than people are giving it credit for.
This is typically attributed to the extreme work culture of Japan as well as the severe economic downturn after 1991. Typically, employees are expected to work overtime and weekends. It is common to find workers pulling 10 to 12 hours shifts 6 days a week, especially salary employees. Along with this, far more women in Japan are moving into the working force and facing the same conditions. Between extreme work hours, a higher cost of living in areas where work can be found, and the extremely minimalistic living conditions in these areas, couples opt to adopt pets instead of have kids. The extreme levels of stress induced by Japanese work culture (as can be seen in their suicide rate) can be applied to the declining rates of sex as well (as studies show high levels of stress can significantly drop the libido of both men and women).
 
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Well, to copy your own discussion style: Ah, yes, the Guardian. Very reliable. I'm sure the information is unbiased. No agenda I'm sure

To actually make a point, though, here is an excerpt from the article, "The inflammatory subject of sex, and how the ancients enjoyed it, has spurred on several Greek historians who are bent on dismissing the commonly held notion that their ancestors were liberal, free-for-all revellers.". and "But in a country where "obscene" statues and vases were stashed away in museum storerooms until the early 70s, the revival has as much to do with revising perceptions of the past as anything else. Greeks who are dissatisfied with the traditional academic theories about the ancient world have taken to re-examining them with a gusto." The author openly states that there is a bias for finding contrarian evidence to what has been traditionally studied. They also say many are attempting to do such. Who? Which historians have come out to say such? Its been 23 years and I can't find any evidence presented that supports his claims. I'd be glad to read through it if its there.

And on that note:

What are this books sources? Who is Nikolaos A. Vrissimtzis? What information has he used for this book and where did he get it from? I can't find an excerpt, review, or mention of the credibility of his writing or what he even has to say about Greek culture and the book is from 1997 it looks like? Has it been used as a source for anything? Its also the only thing I can find claiming that masturbation was so looked down upon in Greece. Its hard to say that this one man's book was a definitive source when we have so many historians and archeologists who say the findings point to another answer.



You misunderstand what an ancient comedy is. 'Comedy' was not used then as it is now, typically referring to a play meant to have a positive, uplifting, or joyous ending, compared to the 'Drama' which was typically meant to have a profound or disheartening ending. Greeks actually did have parodies, like SouthPark, though. This were typically far and few between because to understand the plays subject material, one had to have an understanding of the literature and texts being parodied, which less than wealthy people typically did not.



Firstly, show me where in the book the author mocks historians who explain these statues as pornographic.

Secondly, very ironic as you don't seem to read your own. See my first comment in this post.



Ad hominem. Means nothing.



Yes, I would say that your subjective take, with no evidence to support your conclusion, makes the point rather moot.

As for this article about current men's (and also women's) sex drive declining proposes 4 theories, only one of which references porn, based purely on speculative correlation. There is no evidence provided in the article or sources cited that show any definitive causation between any of the 4 purported theories and the decrease in men's (and women's) libido. If anything, this articles simply exists to state an event (Young Men's and Women's Sex Rates have Fallen in the last 30 Years) and then speculate reasons that may or may not cause such to occure.



And interesting, but wholly unhelpful article. If you read the article, they state, "More than a third (38 per cent) had experienced these acts and said they were unwanted at least some of the time.".
So what is "at least some of the time" mean? What percentage of the 38% is unwanted? In my opinion, "At least sometimes" sounds pretty underwhelming. This article displays nothing that shows a causation between the rise in pornography and these events. I would, without having studies to display on this, go out on a limb and say that in impoverished countries, like Burundi, there are far greater rates of sexual violence and far lower rates of porn consumption.
It's very abundently clear that you're not reading what you're linking. Literally go up from the page (page 194) you linked in the one about stone age civilisations and you will see it says very clearly that the idea is absurd that all these figures were of a sexual nature. In the bit about the Greeks page 344 backs up what I am saying. The Greeks looked down on it. And yes the author's intentions matter. That's a basic part of critical thinking. Analyse every aspect of the source. LGBT activists tend to be part of the 1960s orthodoxy. They had their own preset worldview to achieve an ideological end of a world in which everyone just lives in a constant state of nihilism whilst calling it "liberation". To separate people from all that made life worthwhile in the hopes it will fill the empty narcissistic void in themselves. And Burundi has a high amount of polygamy going on. Although illegal it is still widespread (although this according to an article from 1999 so I'm not sure what the rates are like now). But frankly that just proves my point further that men who do not have their libido restricted will inevitably become anti-social and possibly violent.
 

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It's very abundently clear that you're not reading what you're linking. Literally go up from the page (page 194) you linked in the one about stone age civilisations and you will see it says very clearly that the idea is absurd that all these figures were of a sexual nature.
Dude, take a screenshot or something, ctrl+PrtSc. Its been forever since I read the book and that page won't show me whatever you're trying to mention in the preview. I see nowhere in the text where they mock this idea. I can't refute what you have to say if I have no idea what you're saying.

But frankly that just proves my point further that men who do not have their libido restricted will inevitably become anti-social and possibly violent.

Woah, when was that ever your point? I thought you were saying people who restrict their libido with pornography and masturbation became anti-social and violent?
 
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Dude, take a screenshot or something, ctrl+PrtSc. Its been forever since I read the book and that page won't show me whatever you're trying to mention in the preview. I see nowhere in the text where they mock this idea. I can't refute what you have to say if I have no idea what you're saying.



Woah, when was that ever your point? I thought you were saying people who restrict their libido with pornography and masturbation became anti-social and violent?
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And the entire with porn is that it is a means to easily meet the urges of young men without providing any real satisifaction which causes anti-social behaviour and in some cases violence. The anti-social behaviour is what causes sexlessness.
 

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And the entire with porn is that it is a means to easily meet the urges of young men without providing any real satisifaction which causes anti-social behaviour and in some cases violence. The anti-social behaviour is what causes sexlessness.
Damn, you do have me there with that passage. I'll have to do more research into this, but I am glad to have learned something here.

Okay, so are you arguing that porn represses or expands the libido, because you're kind of going back and forth here. Is you're point that they think they are relieving the libido, but in reality it is only building more desire? If so, I can agree to that. That is simply a matter of over-indulgence, though.
 
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Damn, you do have me there with that passage. I'll have to do more research into this, but I am glad to have learned something here.

Okay, so are you arguing that porn represses or expands the libido, because you're kind of going back and forth here. Is you're point that they think they are relieving the libido, but in reality it is only building more desire? If so, I can agree to that. That is simply a matter of over-indulgence, though.
Ok so it kinda does both at the same time. It expands your appetite but reduces your ability to actually satisfy it. So today most young men go online and abuse themselves with porn as a means to satisfy their drive to find a real woman. As mentioned before it destroys social skills by filling the mind with various shameful thoughts. So for example me and my mid-teens friends used to watch porn together usually to laugh at. We spent a lot of time doing this because it was so dominant on our minds. This means we could not talk to other people except each other because most people don't want to talk about hentai. So what this causes is an inability to socially expand and actually find a girlfriend. But at the same time these people have an endless supply of new and more extreme images that they wish to act out in the real world as computer screens cannot satisfy. So it's a catch 22 where the man cannot find anyone and has an increasing sexual appetite. If such a male does find himself in a relationship he is likely to carry these often times damaging sexual fantasies on a woman which in turn makes gender relations worse. A lot of women these days talk to men increasingly less because of this. In the more likely case he cannot find anyone who will become increasingly distressed, depressed, and angry which can result in violent acting out.
 

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Ok so it kinda does both at the same time. It expands your appetite but reduces your ability to actually satisfy it. So today most young men go online and abuse themselves with porn as a means to satisfy their drive to find a real woman. As mentioned before it destroys social skills by filling the mind with various shameful thoughts. So for example me and my mid-teens friends used to watch porn together usually to laugh at. We spent a lot of time doing this because it was so dominant on our minds. This means we could not talk to other people except each other because most people don't want to talk about hentai. So what this causes is an inability to socially expand and actually find a girlfriend. But at the same time these people have an endless supply of new and more extreme images that they wish to act out in the real world as computer screens cannot satisfy. So it's a catch 22 where the man cannot find anyone and has an increasing sexual appetite. If such a male does find himself in a relationship he is likely to carry these often times damaging sexual fantasies on a woman which in turn makes gender relations worse. A lot of women these days talk to men increasingly less because of this. In the more likely case he cannot find anyone who will become increasingly distressed, depressed, and angry which can result in violent acting out.
Okay, so what I gather from this is that its the fault of the person, the hobby they choose to indulge in, and their perspective on how they should be able to interact with society. If someone'a only hobby is porn and its literally the only thing they want to tall about, its not porn that's the issue, its their life balance and perspective that is the issue.

A part that gets me is the shameful thoughts section. Where does this come from? Is it just the projection of your experience onto others? I've never had thoughts I felt ashamed of because of porn. Most people I know who have watched porn haven't. The only people I know who feel shameful about indulging in porn are the highly religious or those raised in a religious household.
 
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Okay, so what I gather from this is that its the fault of the person, the hobby they choose to indulge in, and their perspective on how they should be able to interact with society. If someone'a only hobby is porn and its literally the only thing they want to tall about, its not porn that's the issue, its their life balance and perspective that is the issue.

A part that gets me is the shameful thoughts section. Where does this come from? Is it just the projection of your experience onto others? I've never had thoughts I felt ashamed of because of porn. Most people I know who have watched porn haven't. The only people I know who feel shameful about indulging in porn are the highly religious or those raised in a religious household.
Well in my case I grew up in a religious primary school with an irreligious household consisting of me, my mother, and my sister. My father was around but the relationship was distant. I had a sort of substitute father in the form of a close family friend. This subject never came up for me. Of course a school consisting of a bunch of children isn't going to tolerate anything pornographic. Although I should note that one of the kids had seen it I believe and it was around the time he became more violent. For the most half this subject never came up. I was left to discover it on my own in my own time. Even when I found friends to look at these images with the shame never went away. I'm not going to go into the full details of what this caused me to do as I still feel deeply ashamed of it but all I can tell you is that it was bad. The problem has largely cleared up now that stuff is gone. Ultimately I come out of it angry that no one warned me and that this stuff was actively promoted to me. I had guys who were 18 actively showing it to me when I was 13. Nothing was done to inform of these effects.
 

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When did I make that comparison?

Linkat asked for instances throughout history of images that were used for the purpose of arousing the viewer. I have provided them.
Did I say sitting around masturbating to on-demand pornography all day is healthy?
bro you have legit been making that comprasion since the moment you started talking about ancient men wacking it to fucking mud statues
 
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bro you have legit been making that comprasion since the moment you started talking about ancient men wacking it to fucking mud statues
No, I never said whacking it to mud statues is the same as infinite on demand porn. I said we've had porn for thousands of years.
 
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Well in my case I grew up in a religious primary school with an irreligious household consisting of me, my mother, and my sister. My father was around but the relationship was distant. I had a sort of substitute father in the form of a close family friend. This subject never came up for me. Of course a school consisting of a bunch of children isn't going to tolerate anything pornographic. Although I should note that one of the kids had seen it I believe and it was around the time he became more violent. For the most half this subject never came up. I was left to discover it on my own in my own time. Even when I found friends to look at these images with the shame never went away. I'm not going to go into the full details of what this caused me to do as I still feel deeply ashamed of it but all I can tell you is that it was bad. The problem has largely cleared up now that stuff is gone. Ultimately I come out of it angry that no one warned me and that this stuff was actively promoted to me. I had guys who were 18 actively showing it to me when I was 13. Nothing was done to inform of these effects.
I'm sorry you had to go through that. The worst part about the prevalence of pornography nowadays is the age in which people first view it. There's a lot of talk about "just don't watch it if you don't want to" which doesn't take into account that the average age people find this stuff is getting lower and lower. Last I checked it was 11 or 12 in the US. Its hard to argue that people choose to watch porn of their own free will when the average person gets hooked on it as a minor. Its impossible to avoid on the internet even with the strictest of filters sometimes and it negatively shapes people's perceptions of sex and relationships going into adulthood.
 
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