Every photo has a beginning and an end. It's a gift and a curse that we can see both. This photo is no exception. There is excitement in the air the moment this was taken. Anticipation of starting life and finding freedom, meaning, and happiness. My first stop is to pick her up. I loved her in that moment, the perfect moment that we drove to the ocean.
She is more of a metaphor than person now. A placeholder of a feeling. It was never about her anyway; it was about building my happiness, I think. The idea of the perfect life. It's the idea of us that is the nostalgia. I long for the feelings or at least the moment, not for her. Maybe that's what love really is and why it's so fickle.
I can feel the ocean air as I look more at this picture. Her smile flashes in my head but I can't see it. I see broken memories like glass that I am stepping on, fragmenting them more with each walk down memory lane. It's not linear or complete. It's the car that ties the memories together. It is part of the stage of our time together. A critical element of the scenery of the play of life. In this place and time, the car has meaning. It sits today a forgotten set rusting in a back lot waiting until it is no more. If I were to sit in it, there would be no meaning. It would feel like an empty auditorium the day after the show is over. The silence and emptiness would be almost devastating.
The sunlight flashes in my head and I am, for a moment, filled with the echoes of the joy of that day. As the echo fades my hand feels the ghost of hers in it. The faint memory of the electricity running up my arm as her voice momentarily rings in my ears. I remember the emotion in her eyes, I almost see them, but can't.
The feeling of the steering wheel travels along my fingers as another memory flashes in an instant. I remember thinking of the future in that moment. I remember I had an almost precognitive memory of a future on that day that wouldn't quite turnout how I thought. I knew how it ended, but I didn't know who it ended with. The idea was there as vague feelings, but the picture was blurry.
The sounds of seagulls and children playing reverberate from the back of my mind at the same time. Pieces of the scene from our play come to me, but I can't focus on them. The ocean waves are there for a second. Then a clank of a flagpole rope. I close my eyes in the hopes my mind can reproduce the memory, but it can't. The irony is the photo was taken with a camcorder, but no video was taken.
As her voice echoes through my head incomprehensibly, I ponder why I keep looking at this photo after all these years. Looking as the same broken sounds and images play in my brain. I once thought it was about her, but it's not. I thought it was about the day, but it's not. I spend my days trying to build the future but am living in the past. I don't truly exist in any one place. Maybe I am nostalgic for the ignorance. Ignorance brings unlimited possibilities and with it the idea that you can do whatever you want. The future is yours for the taking. But I am not sure that is it.
As I get ready to close the photo, I am filled with the same thoughts of disappointment of the moment ending. I don't want to close it. Knowing the car will soon drive away and this memory that I am making will be over. The car is parked in the photo but will eventually drive away. It always does, and it always will. It leaves the moment stuck in time, at that place. We can never go to this place again and that is the the hardest part to grapple with. I ask why into the void and listen, but there is no answer. It's almost like our nature is nonlinear but we are trapped in this linear world.
Without this moment, without this anchor point, the future is not possible. For that reason, I am grateful for it. But it opens deeper questions, questions with no answers.