There is a lot to cover but I find the logic of the transgender community to be flawed. Please note that I am not transphobic, my opinion is simply not in support of the transgender community. Transgenderism is also known as gender identity disorder (GID).
I agree largely with your first two points; it is rather silly to allow a child to make a drastic decision, particularly one which affects one's own ability to procreate, especially without parental influence, but I would go so far as to say that chemical/surgical transitions simply should not be an option to minors. They lack understanding of their own body and their brain has yet to mature enough to make a rational decision about it, or to accept themselves as you denote later. However, I fundamentally disagree with the notion of a transgender "community" or "ideology". Simply being trans, or feeling like you don't fit your original/any gender norms isn't enough to compose an ideology. "Pushing" trans acceptance really isn't enough either, and I would say what you're really disagreeing with here isn't trans-ness or any kind of trans ideology, it's a facet of western Neo-liberalism. (buzzword!)
To me transgender ideology is the rationalization of gender dysphoria or gender envy as identity. They even have a way to say they aren't any gender or are somewhere in between genders or are both at once or are something else entirely. Kinship seems to be linked with the trans community from what I've seen in their safe spaces (note that I simply entered them for research but did not post since I most likely would not be welcome) which kinship itself seems a little silly to me, that's where the vine of the guy standing on the pier saying they identify as a wolf comes from. All of these extra identities are entirely mental and aren't really based in the real world, they are constructs and they feel extra or not useful for our youth to grow up learning or identifying with.
Secondarily, even if one were to argue that modern, western academia is entirely too socialized and politically motivated, it's not a recent thing in sociology, philosophy, or any other people-centric branch to say that gender norms, especially in a post-industrial society where one does not have to subsist of your own accord based on your own physicality and communal value, standard male/female gender roles are just as constructed. Yes they serve a role in survival, but if we've put all this time and societal effort into creating a society where one doesn't have to fight against nature on a daily basis, there's hardly any reason that we'd have to stick to those roles when they're no longer a necessity. It's also worth mentioning that people who identify as trans are no more than 3% of the population in any country. Even in the United States, where one would assume "trans ideology" to be the most prevalent, in the state with the highest percent of trans citizens, Hawaii, the number is only 0.57%. (The only exception to this is Washington DC, with 2.03%. However, this is a poor example to use, because DC only has about ~689,000 people, and these statistics are by population density.)
3. Another claim is that therapy just doesn't work.
-Transgender people will spend their entire lives having their choice (if you can call it theirs) attacked. Does it not then make sense that they would view therapy designed to help them abandon that choice in favor of being comfortable in their own body as an attack on their self? If they are told their choices are wrong, over and over, why then would saying the same thing but in a context in their best interest be viewed as different from an attack? Therapy will not work once the transgender ideal takes hold unless the individual is receptive to criticism.
-Therapy only works if the individual
WANTS to change. Only if they want to be comfortable in their own body does therapy have a chance of realizing it. But the problem is, these people are disgusted by their bodies. They could not be further from successful therapy. They don't want to be comfortable with something that already seems ugly.
-Only when a transgender person realizes that they only see their body as ugly because of confusion, poor body image, or self esteem can they accept that they might not be viewing themselves correctly. That's when therapy will work. When they're ready to change. Should we not preach self acceptance of our bodies before acceptance of the difference between our body and our feelings?
If you made it this far, I'm proud of you. You are a true intellectual to read the entire argument, and I respect you as an individual. The approach for helping the transgender person should not be to force them through therapy or transitioning but to educate them as much as possible about themselves and to teach them self love so they never question or doubt themselves in the first place.
This is a very flawed argument. There is no substance or positive precedent to the idea that rather than getting rid of the attack you mention here, and pushing for social acceptance of people, that one should simply remove them entirely. An attack on a group does not mean the group being targeted is bad, that is inherently illogical. That branch of thinking is very easily misused to lobby for the genocide of an ethnic group, or even anyone considered a "wrong-thinker/thought criminal". The issue of transgender people being attacked for an aspect of the self is not their existence, it is that people are unwilling to accept that others may not be the same type of person they are. I don't mean this to say that you're committing a thought crime or you're a nazi or anything of the sort, but the sentiment you're describing here is, put most simply, that you do not think others can
be a certain way, because it somehow conflicts with your own ideology, religion, or personal ethics. Blanketly "educating" people on how they are the incorrect type of person because western politics thinks everyone should be like them is a poor way to go about it. That reads exactly the same as the type of person you're decrying in this thread telling people on Twitter to "be better" or "educate yourself".
I'd also ask what sort of ethical stance you're taking here, because I can't think of one where someone's personal decisions, which cause no harm to others or greater societal health, especially simply by virtue of their own existence, is a justified reason to advocate they be made to abandon an aspect of their individual identity. At most, one might say they are a danger to themselves by virtue of the high suicide statistics, but how will continuing to tell people their identity is invalid solve the problem? That will only make them more against therapy. The most popular methods of ethics, (Libertarianism, Utilitarianism, and Deontology) don't line up with this at all. At the end of the day, we all have the fundamental right to free will, and the approach of "fixing" other people because you disagree with the idea of their existence, because it violates your preconceived notions of what a person is, is rather similar to the justification of colonization by European settlers by way of the Social Contract. (The natives are not technically people and cannot help themselves or civilize themselves, so we must lay claim to their land to further our own efforts and civilize them.) There's not a solid argument to be made, even under the grounds of the first person to advocate for transgenderism in western society was a horrible piece of shit who drove a pair of twins (if I remember correctly) to suicide. That is very much the textbook definition of a logical fallacy. (Hero-Busting and Ad Hominem).
This may be circumstantial evidence, but I have a few friends that identify as non-binary. Particularly, I remember a day where we were doing some studying after class in one of the lobby of the main campus building, and there were a group of girls next to us talking about their distaste for trans people who change their names and pronouns frequently and people who don't just pick a side. While I can agree with that on some basic level, and it can be moderately annoying to have to change how you address someone, it really bothered my friend, because they felt like their identity was being invalidated. Sure, you could say they just need a thicker skin, but I'd urge you to consider that the people you're talking about are
people. Practice empathy and understanding. There's no reason that the self is not transient and ephemeral. People constantly change, and changing in a certain way does not mean that you are changing the "wrong way".