Problem is, I can't see myself marrying a man. The smell of testosterone doesn't turn me on, and I even quite dislike it.
A sign of "true" love on the point of a woman, is that they want to have their man's babies in their womb. Women are hypergamous creatures which makes them very selective in men, and this is a GOOD thing, as it means good genes get passed on, and a good father figure is selected for(provided the woman has had a good father figure and doesn't lust after dark triad traits). Most women just want kids, not to bear a particular man's kids... and that's very telling in the kind of relationships they have, and bears a poor future for the kid as their parent's relationship is repeatedly tested.
As no_chill already mentioned, diet, hormonal balance, hygiene and your own habits have a huge influence on how you smell. Testosterone is only the hormone, most men are actually low in testosterone due to a really shoddy diet- and men aren't usually predisposed to good hygiene. As a result you have lots of men who smell... how to put it other than "off"?.
But the issue is, I'd want my kids to have an actual father figure.
This is good. You must have had a good father figure in your life, to be able to know that you want a good father figure for your kids.
and if that's the case, it's 100% of the time an old man.
Throughout history, women have often married up the social hierarchy, upwards towards an older man. This is because an older man is competent, confident, has experienced life and(especially if you consider our ancients) lived. This fact of living at such an old age, indicates a lot of competence, as there's a lot of ways to die in life. Even nowadays, it's a decidedly excellent strategy for women, as it ensures you have someone with life experience, someone who knows what's best for you, and knows what's best for themselves, and is competent... that is, if you select them right. A lot of those men are capable of being mentors to you too. Again you have to be able to tell the difference between Fatherly traits and dark triad traits.
The age gap is often viewed poorly in the west, where it's often seen as something suspicious going on, but I genuinely recommend you look into it and do some more thinking of your own on it. The older you are, the more meaningless the age gap. In the phillipines as an example,
age gaps are fairly common. It usually frames the woman as a Gold digger, and the man as a pervert. Is a man wanting a fertile, beautiful and kind woman bad? Is a woman wanting a competent, and resourceful(both in skills and actual resources) as a provider bad? To both, I think no, and in the men those traits peak around 30-40, and in women, they peak around 20-25.
It's a telling thing... that enjoying beauty is perverted. What perverted senses! And all enjoyment of beauty, is ugly- but beauty itself, is beauty.
What would you think about same-sex parenting? Do you think that kids can grow up well-adjusted with two parents of the same sex, provided they're happy and well taken care of?
Firstly, there cannot be a child between two people of the same sex. I say sex, not gender. You can identify however you want, but that won't change the reality of it being impossible between two people of the same sex.
Now there's ways of getting "around" this: surrogates, or sperm donors. In the case of surrogates, this is dangerous as you're putting the birth health in the hands of someone else for 9 months, and they might have an awful tobacco and alcohol ridden druggie life. In the case of sperm donors, it's just that it's not your genetic material. In both cases, the fact half of it isn't your genetic material poses problems in research the history of health in someone's family, as they can only see on one side, but the other relies on keeping in contact with the other person.
Adoption is also an option. Needless to say, adoption runs into the same abuses that stepfathers and stepmothers have. They aren't their "real" parents and the kid normally treats it as such if they're old enough, and the stepmother or stepfather has big shoes to fill in. As it's both, it's two people with big shoes to fill. If the kid is young enough, they haven't had any breast milk, which is the proper way of providing milk to a baby, but most breast milk is a result of the mother's garbage diet so wouldn't help anyway, and the industry baby milk is better if the mother's diet is garbage, but worse if the mother pays attention to their diet. This only applies if they are a baby though. The older the adopted kid, the more shit they've gone through, and the more predisposed against you they will often be.
Can they grow up well-adjusted with two parents of the same-sex, provided they're happy and taken care of, and the pragmatic reality of the situation above is properly addressed? Absolutely. This places a huge burden on the two parents. Firstly, most gay people are left-leaning, and left-leaning people are typically predisposed against health and vitality from the absolute hogwash they put forward on health, nutrition and diet, and in terms of what they themselves eat. Secondly, if it's two mothers you're fighting female nature. In single-parent households, kids of a single Mother come out mentally worse, than kids of a single Father. It's not that hard to understand why. The Father is a provider, protector, mentor and guide- the Mother is a carer and supporter, but support and care is easily rolled over. Providing, mentoring and protecting isn't. Again on this point, whoever takes the paternal or whoever takes the maternal role will always be filling a role they aren't biologically and psychologically predisposed to. That's not to say they can't do it as a lot of women nowadays act masculine, and a lot of men nowadays act feminine, but to say one side will likely struggle to fill the role. Thirdly, you're fighting the predisposition that gay people have towards sexual fetishes. This is the more unbelievable of the claims, so I support it by putting forward this predisposition as put forward in this
research regarding a comparison of homosexual and heterosexual couples and the frequency of sex offences against children.
This is the same point as can be put forward about two parents who are heterosexual. It depends on the parents being well-adjusted. I believe gay people are predisposed to being mentally ill.
" and with "we are all in this together"... Together in what?
