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Three types of agora road users:
Loner weirdo without a father/mother figure
Living happy with your partner in an homosexual relationship
Married Boomers
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Three types of agora road users:
So... When are we banding together to make an anime metamorphosis where generic protagonist with a hentai haircut turns into an ugly bastard but his sister loves him anyway?The dude from that pic had a sister though. But his story wasnt an anime so no incest
I've been... De00nkedI got a gf shortly after joining agora, and we bonded over Lain. So my N=1 study disagrees and says that agora = gf
turn em off and go outside. fucking pill bullshit never gonna get you anywhere.It's been like one year that I'm watching pill channels and a lot of what they say makes sense and explain a lot my childhood/teenagehood experience towards the opposite sex. They preach that your looks determine your life, which means people (specially women) will treat you better if you are a Chad.
I feel like if I were more validated by girl my self esteem would be way higher than it is.
If you honestly feel this way stop asking strangers on the internet for advice. You'll get helpful responses, but every one of them will be from some armchair psychologist or internet tough guy who's giving you an answer (or telling you to shut up) because they want to "fix the incel problem" and not because they actually care about your happiness. Even if they truly mean well, they won't be capable of doing anything more than that because they don't know you in real life and can't help but see you as another instance of a generalized social issue that they've already formed an opinion on. If you're like me, reading these responses will make you feel terrible no matter how good the advice is. Allowing yourself to be treated as an obnoxious problem that needs to be solved is not going to improve your self-confidence, it's going to throw your negative thoughts into a feedback loop and trick you into thinking that you're irredeemable.Ever since I can remember, I never had a close friendship with girls the same age as me, and almost no girl would ever talk to me, it has been like this since kindergarten. Maybe it's because of my appearance features (light brown skinned, weak jawline, round face, potato nose, use eyeglasses, nerdy looks, skinny as hell, almost anorexic, shy, introvert, etc. Basically I'm a ugly black nerd)
I only remember one girl that I felt that were genuinely nice and friendly to me (with exception of female parents and relatives). But the majority of them would just ignore me or look me with a look of disgust.
And I feel that (if I'm not wrong, there are studies that kinda support my point) when boys are friends with girls at a scholar age, they become more confident, and I can tell by my life experience that this is true.
It's been like one year that I'm watching pill channels and a lot of what they say makes sense and explain a lot my childhood/teenagehood experience towards the opposite sex. They preach that your looks determine your life, which means people (specially women) will treat you better if you are a Chad.
I feel like if I were more validated by girl my self esteem would be way higher than it is.
In order to fell better about that myself and sorta scape from that stuff, I created a waifu, a imaginary wife. Her name is Aeryyn, every night, I fantasize with her for about 45 min to 1 hour, and that really helps me to cope with my lack of success with the opposite sex.
My therapist said that if I had a girlfriend that would really help me to feel better about myself, but my parents think I'm too young and immature, I don't know what to do so I keep coping with waifus and internet until my enlightenment comes
INCEL SPOTTEDSorry, I'm not white, nor 6 ft, nor have blue eyes. So it's really not that simple
as everyone else in this thread has been saying, definitely avoid pill channels and likely waifu cope. try and eliminate biological determinism (basically lookism) from your thought process, that resolves you of any responsibility or agency and locks off the path to self-improvement.Ever since I can remember, I never had a close friendship with girls the same age as me, and almost no girl would ever talk to me, it has been like this since kindergarten. Maybe it's because of my appearance features (light brown skinned, weak jawline, round face, potato nose, use eyeglasses, nerdy looks, skinny as hell, almost anorexic, shy, introvert, etc. Basically I'm a ugly black nerd)
I only remember one girl that I felt that were genuinely nice and friendly to me (with exception of female parents and relatives). But the majority of them would just ignore me or look me with a look of disgust.
And I feel that (if I'm not wrong, there are studies that kinda support my point) when boys are friends with girls at a scholar age, they become more confident, and I can tell by my life experience that this is true.
It's been like one year that I'm watching pill channels and a lot of what they say makes sense and explain a lot my childhood/teenagehood experience towards the opposite sex. They preach that your looks determine your life, which means people (specially women) will treat you better if you are a Chad.
I feel like if I were more validated by girl my self esteem would be way higher than it is.
In order to fell better about that myself and sorta scape from that stuff, I created a waifu, a imaginary wife. Her name is Aeryyn, every night, I fantasize with her for about 45 min to 1 hour, and that really helps me to cope with my lack of success with the opposite sex.
My therapist said that if I had a girlfriend that would really help me to feel better about myself, but my parents think I'm too young and immature, I don't know what to do so I keep coping with waifus and internet until my enlightenment comes
the reply below this is literally "fuck off incel" lolIf you honestly feel this way stop asking strangers on the internet for advice. You'll get helpful responses, but every one of them will be from some armchair psychologist or internet tough guy who's giving you an answer (or telling you to shut up) because they want to "fix the incel problem" and not because they actually care about your happiness. Even if they truly mean well, they won't be capable of doing anything more than that because they don't know you in real life and can't help but see you as another instance of a generalized social issue that they've already formed an opinion on. If you're like me, reading these responses will make you feel terrible no matter how good the advice is. Allowing yourself to be treated as an obnoxious problem that needs to be solved is not going to improve your self-confidence, it's going to throw your negative thoughts into a feedback loop and trick you into thinking that you're irredeemable.
I'm not saying that you shouldn't open yourself up to other people, just that doing it on the internet is a bad idea. Talk to other people in real life who are capable of treating you as something more than a joke or a means to an end.
It seems like most of the posts are responding to OP in good faith...If you honestly feel this way stop asking strangers on the internet for advice. You'll get helpful responses, but every one of them will be from some armchair psychologist or internet tough guy who's giving you an answer (or telling you to shut up) because they want to "fix the incel problem" and not because they actually care about your happiness. Even if they truly mean well, they won't be capable of doing anything more than that because they don't know you in real life and can't help but see you as another instance of a generalized social issue that they've already formed an opinion on. If you're like me, reading these responses will make you feel terrible no matter how good the advice is. Allowing yourself to be treated as an obnoxious problem that needs to be solved is not going to improve your self-confidence, it's going to throw your negative thoughts into a feedback loop and trick you into thinking that you're irredeemable.
I'm not saying that you shouldn't open yourself up to other people, just that doing it on the internet is a bad idea. Talk to other people in real life who are capable of treating you as something more than a joke or a means to an end.
...well, some of them at least.INCEL SPOTTED
GET THE FUCK OFF OUR FORUM
rare case where i'll pull my "wow whoa oh shit woman behind the keyboard" card but i typically make sure to say "pill bullshit will never get you anywhere" cause imo these kinda guys hearing it from women that it's the biggest turnoff in the world might be the best chance they've got of breaking out of the loopYou'll get helpful responses, but every one of them will be from some armchair psychologist or internet tough guy who's giving you an answer (or telling you to shut up) because they want to "fix the incel problem" and not because they actually care about your happiness.
I think an important change you have to have with your mindset is that you can improve. All the things you mentioned, other than being black lol, can be changed by your actions. Part of being a man is taking on this challenge and getting better. The advice everyone is giving you here to lift weights is 100% effective. If you put on some muscle, you'll look better, which will make you feel more confident. It will also teach you discipline and show you that you can achieve things when you put in the effort. From there, dress well and try your best to socialize with people. The more experience you have just talking to people, the easier it will get to do so. You wont feel anxious or timid approaching people.Ever since I can remember, I never had a close friendship with girls the same age as me, and almost no girl would ever talk to me, it has been like this since kindergarten. Maybe it's because of my appearance features (light brown skinned, weak jawline, round face, potato nose, use eyeglasses, nerdy looks, skinny as hell, almost anorexic, shy, introvert, etc. Basically I'm a ugly black nerd)
This ain't a selfie thread, Andy.
Look mate, I spent a lot of time around girls my whole life, both because my mom's friends had girls, so playdates were with girls a lot, and because I unwittingly pulled bitches as a teen. Now, my joke-y lingo aside, there, I was in a lot of relationships before I got married. To this day, though, I still lack a lot of confidence in particular areas. Its the human condition and its the human experience. Now, I have a plethora of issues that plague me personally, but we all do. So, regardless of the issues you face, all humans can share that commonality.And I feel that (if I'm not wrong, there are studies that kinda support my point) when boys are friends with girls at a scholar age, they become more confident, and I can tell by my life experience that this is true.
I agree with most of your post but this one I'd disagree with. January 2020 I came out of a 3 year long relationship and mid lockdowns, I tried online dating despite initially being extremely opposed to it.Confidence is not a trait to work on and neither is pulling a girl. Neither are things you can work on, study for, or improve directly.
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